My daughter, who is almost 11, is best friends with a boy. It is a completely platonic friendship, like brother and sister. At weekends and after school they are always out playing together, riding bikes, roller skating, climbing trees and playing computer games.
While this may sound a bit tomboyish, my daughter is usually wearing girly clothes and a unicorn headband. We do girl stuff together at home, it is not this that upsets me about their friendship, it is the opinions of others on it.
A lot of people (including my son, and I have had words with him numerous times about this) tease them about them being boyfriend and girlfriend. This upsets both of them. They hate it that others can’t just let them be friends, there has to be more too it.
He gets teased by boys, saying he must be gay or something and her girl friends are mean to him as they don not like the fact that she spends time with him and not them.
They even went through a phase where they didn’t interact much at school because of the teasing, my daughter even got punched in the stomach by a boy who just didn’t get it when she said they were just friends and he didn’t agree.
His mum and I have had numerous trips to the school to try and solve the problem. It is not as bad as it was, but there are still days when something is said to one or both of them.
I really do not understand why people and so many of their peers find it so hard to get to grips with their friendship. In this PC world that we live in, why are they being given a hard time over this. If it was a different issue they were being made fun of there would have been a punishment by now.
Even though they have faced a tough time, I hope that the two of them stay friends for a very long time. They have such a lovely friendship, I would hate for some meaningless comment to ruin it all.
What do you think, can girls and boys be friends?
Take care everyone.