What’s wrong with Girl/Boy friendships?

My daughter, who is almost 11, is best friends with a boy. It is a completely platonic friendship, like brother and sister. At weekends and after school they are always out playing together, riding bikes, roller skating, climbing trees and playing computer games.

While this may sound a bit tomboyish, my daughter is usually wearing girly clothes and a unicorn headband. We do girl stuff together at home, it is not this that upsets me about their friendship, it is the opinions of others on it.

A lot of people (including my son, and I have had words with him numerous times about this) tease them about them being boyfriend and girlfriend. This upsets both of them. They hate it that others can’t just let them be friends, there has to be more too it.
He gets teased by boys, saying he must be gay or something and her girl friends are mean to him as they don not like the fact that she spends time with him and not them.
They even went through a phase where they didn’t interact much at school because of the teasing, my daughter even got punched in the stomach by a boy who just didn’t get it when she said they were just friends and he didn’t agree.
His mum and I have had numerous trips to the school to try and solve the problem. It is not as bad as it was, but there are still days when something is said to one or both of them.
I really do not understand why people and so many of their peers find it so hard to get to grips with their friendship. In this PC world that we live in, why are they being given a hard time over this. If it was a different issue they were being made fun of there would have been a punishment by now.
Even though they have faced a tough time, I hope that the two of them stay friends for a very long time. They have such a lovely friendship, I would hate for some meaningless comment to ruin it all.
What do you think, can girls and boys be friends?
Take care everyone.

22 thoughts on “What’s wrong with Girl/Boy friendships?

  1. Boys and girls can definitely be best friends! My best friends have been guys my whole life – totally platonic, I see them more as a brother than a romantic interest! Sorry to hear your daughter is having a tough time but please reassure her that opposite sex best friends are the best – the people bullying her are just jealous! #KCACOLS

  2. I have always told her to be friends with whoever she wants. They are not letting the bullies win, they are still great friends and probably stronger for it x

  3. A couple of years and it will all fine OK again but 11 is a tricky age and one where comments from others who don't 'get' their friendship will hurt. I hope they will come through this, it sounds like they have something special. #KCACOLS

  4. I think at younger ages they certainly can. It does get trickier as they get older. thanks so much for linking up to #KCACOLS hope to see you again next week

  5. I definitely experienced this as both a child and college student. I really think that others are just jealous of that kind of friendship and can't understand it. I hope things get better for them and they are able to stay friends. Good Luck #ForTheLoveOfBlog

  6. Oy, 11 is such a tough age all around. I remember those years vividly from my childhood, and they truly were a struggle. Growing up, I had several best friends-all of whom were boys. Like your daughter, they were always platonic and people wanted to look more into them. It's sad really-and I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter has been enduring such severe bullying. I hope they stay friends <3 #KCACOLS

  7. Boys and Girls can definitely be friends, there is no reason why friends should fall into the all boy or all girl camp. In this day and age it's hard to understand why it's being questioned. I hope that the trips to the school helped to resolve things for your daughter, and that they continue to remain friends for a long time. Thanks so much for joining us at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  8. Mine is only five, but this past weekend we had her birthday party, and it was all the boys from her class that came, not the girls. I don't see that changing anytime soon either. #KCACOLS

  9. That is so silly! I can't believe that boy punched her over it! I hope they have the courage to stand up to anyone who challenges their friendship.
    x Alice
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  10. I had a best friend who was a boy when I was a teenager and we got mad fun of all the time. It was really hard but as we got older it did get a little easier. I hope this beings the kids closer, they're being bullied and I'm shocked the school isn't doing anything to tackle it.
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  11. That's so sad that they're being judged for their friendship. I definitely think that boys and girls can be friends. My son seems to play with the girls at school just as much as he plays with the boys, and I think that's wonderful. x #KCACOLS

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