Tweens: Then and Now
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Booey is 11. She is a tween. In 1990, I was 11. I wasn’t a tween, I was just 11. In fact I only heard the term tween first mentioned a year or two ago. When I was 11 there were no such terms. Until you were a teenager, you were a child. How things have changed.
The “tweens” of today are so far from 11 year olds of 1990. For a start, I definitely did not have a mobile phone. We had a landline phone and we could only use it with parents permission. And when it was time to come in your mum/dad shouted your name out the back door and you came running!
We didn’t have a tv in our bedrooms (I did when I was older) and we certainly didn’t have all the channels available now. I had to watch whatever was on or what my parents were watching. One thing that hasn’t changed in tv respects is watching Saturday night telly all together. Booey still likes to do this with us, I hope this doesn’t change for a while.
Make up is a big thing for tweens now. Booey’s make up bag is impressive. And unlike me, she knows how to use it all properly. At 11, I may have had one or two make up items, probably nail varnish, but I would only be allowed to wear it with permission. Booey puts face powder and eyeshadow on when ever she leaves the house at weekends.
The clothes available for tweens are starting to be very grown up. I see short shorts, crop tops and other clothes that I think are not really suitable at 11. I am lucky in the fact that Booey doesn’t like these things (yet). But I see other girls wearing them and it makes me anxious. What is wrong with some nice jeans and a t-shirt or a nice (knee length) dress. The world seems to be in such a rush to make our children grow up.
It is thanks to Zoella and other YouTubers for this. Our daughters watch them and want to be like them. They see the make up and clothes they wear and want it all. Not to mention the branded products they bring out themselves. Children worry enough about fitting in without the added pressure of whether they have the right foundation or not.
I don’t want to censor what my daughter watches on YouTube too much, but at the same time I want her to be what she is, a child. Go play at the park, climb some trees, play, draw, use their imagination, we need more of this in their lives. We were always outside if we could be at that age, why would you want to be stuck indoors.
Society please, let our children be children, loosen the pressure on them to grow up so quickly. They only get one childhood, let them enjoy it.
Take care everyone.
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10 Comments
Jeremy@ThirstyDaddy
It was 85 when I was 11. I did have a TV in my bedroom – a black and white TV that got 3 stations! Things certainly have changed a bit in my lifetime. It makes me wonder what kinds of things my daughter will be seeing by the time she’s my age. #anythinggoes
aliduke79@hotmail.com
I remember only have 4 stations as a kid lol. It does make you wonder, things have changed so muh already, what is next.
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The world has changed. I hope my children stay children for as long as possible but Anya is 4 and already wants make up and nail varnish… #anythinggoes
aliduke79@hotmail.com
I know it is so hard x
Karen | TwoTinyHands
Unfortunately im not sure we could stop it even if we all tried. I think this is quite a lot of parents worries now days because life has changed so much. I wonder if our parents thought the same when we were growing up, I imagine it was our grandparents thatnsaw the biggest changes though. I think we need to keep the lines of communication open with our littles and just try and keep them level headed and sensible young people!! Eeeks!
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aliduke79@hotmail.com
My parents have remarked how different things are x
Alana - Burnished Chaos
Times have definitely changed. We didn’t even have a landline, we used the telephone box that was opposite our house ?. Kids definitely grow up far too fast these days, I’m hoping to keep mine young as long as possible x
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aliduke79@hotmail.com
Good old telephone boxes lol. I’m trying to keep her young but she’s fighting me all the way ?
Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love)
Things have definitely changed since I was 11. I hardly ever wore make-up at all until I was about 13/14. My friends and I played around with it before then but we would never have been allowed to leave the house wearing it! Tween is a term I only heard for the first time a couple of years ago as well. My nieces are 11 and 13 and are so much more grown-up than I was at their age. It’s a shame that children can’t be children for a little longer. #familyfunlinky
aliduke79@hotmail.com
yes it is. I’m not sure I like these new terms lol.